Counselling & EMDR Blog

It is one of the first questions people ask. The honest answer is that it depends, so here is what it depends on and some realistic ranges.

Many people come to counselling with a quiet worry: what if this is just who I am? Here I explain what personality research says about change, why wanting isn’t enough, and how counselling helps.

Many of us now talk to AI when we're struggling. What chatbots can offer, where they fall short, and when it's worth talking to a person instead.

EMDR often keeps working after the session ends. Here is what you might notice in the days afterwards, and simple ways to look after yourself.

Living abroad and thinking about therapy? What British expats should know first: NHS access, qualifications, insurance, time zones, privacy and how online sessions work.

Autumn can bring comfort, restlessness or a dip in mood. Why the season affects us, what the trees can teach us about letting go, and simple ways to look after yourself.

EMDR is one of the most researched therapies for trauma, but the name can sound mysterious. Here is what it is, how a session works, and who it can help.

Think you need to have your story straight before starting therapy? You don't. Your messiness, your defences and your tears aren't obstacles to the work. They are the work.

Traditional talk therapy helps us understand the 'why,' but our bodies often stay stuck in the 'then.' Discover the neuroscience of EMDR: how we move trauma from an active, physical threat to a neutral memory, allowing your brain to finally do what it was built to do: heal.

Why we're so hard on ourselves, what self-compassion really is, and how the RAIN technique can help you meet difficult feelings with kindness.

Online dating can feel like a whirlwind, full of promise, but also rejection, self-doubt, and emotional overload. In this post, I explore the psychological dynamics behind dating apps and how therapy for online dating can help you build confidence, set boundaries, and connect from a more grounded place.

Training in EMDR changed how I understand trauma, and how I help people with it. Here I share what I learned: why some memories stay stuck, how EMDR helps them settle, and what that could mean if you are thinking about it for yourself.

Looking for a counsellor in Solihull? I'm Jordan, an accredited counsellor and EMDR therapist in Solihull and online. Here's what to look for, and how I work.

If you find it hard to put feelings into words, or “I’m fine” has become your automatic answer, you are far from alone. Here I look at why so many men struggle to connect with their emotions, what bottling things up can cost, and simple ways to start, without losing any of what makes you who you are.

Feeling stuck or asking “Is this all there is?” I look at why a sense of purpose matters, why it can slip away, and five gentle steps to start finding it again.

If your heart races, your chest tightens or your stomach churns when you’re anxious, your body isn’t letting you down. It’s doing exactly what it was built to do. Here I explain what happens in your body when you feel anxious, why it can happen even when there’s no real danger, and some simple ways to help your body settle.